Direct answer
Stop the cycle by removing pass/fail sex, practicing grounding before arousal, and scheduling low-pressure intimacy where hardness is not the goal — so your nervous system learns safety again.
Why does this matter for men?
Avoidance makes the next attempt higher stakes — the cycle tightens.
What causes this?
- Anticipatory anxiety hours before sex
- Rushing to 'prove' you work
- Avoiding initiation
What should you do next?
- Agree on connection-only nights with your partner if possible.
- Breath-led pacing drills solo, then partnered.
- Debrief one variable per encounter — not global worth.
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